"What to do when you've had such a bad day? Easy. Make a poem. What about after? That's up to you."

Nobody likes having bad days. You can't help but remember your stupidity in the situation. But I go through this a lot. And again, it takes an effort to get over it. It might dampen my spirits for a while, but hey, this isn't forever! ^___^ gotta stay positive(though its difficult).

When skies turn gray,

And pillows are punched,

I've nothing more to say,

I'm just simply crunched.

Have a little fit or two,

But still not okay,

I'd ball my fists too,

My feelings in quiet disarray.

Time for a break,

Take a slow, deep breath,

Control isn't a piece of cake,

Mind over matter, bury it all in depth.

I'd try finding my strength,

To stand up and do things right,

Dust off discouragement, walk farther at a length,

Leaving it all behind, so far out of sight.

I'd grasp a helping hand,

Two to divide the pain.

Life is simply grand,

With friends to throw troubles down the drain.

Frustrations come but it will pass,

It's all in the matter of handling it,

Take it in, learn the lessons it has,

Just get out of that sandy pit.

“In Dreams I Meet You There”

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-=I dedicate this to someone who has known so much of me, and is very close to my heart. She is my best friend, my bestie bud, whose friendship I've shared for 6 years. I miss you, Joanna. This one's for you.=-

In dreams I see you,

Your form so real and true,

Reality evades me in this world of dreams,

Where nothing is as real as it seems.

My soul feels light and blissfully happy,

As I walk beside you, absolutely carefree.

I chatter away, enjoying your company,

Time seemed endless, it was just you and me.

In dreams your presence is assuring and comforting,

It comes with your reminder, a message to stop despairing,

I must go on and live as I should,

You smile at me and I know somehow, I could.

Now I look back and remember those rare times.

I remember your laughter, your presence, your poetic rhymes.

We're endlessly distant, a whole life apart,

But you're here I know, in the depths of my heart.

In silence, in despair, my thoughts turn to you,

I'd lie down and I'd wonder, so unknowing of what to do.

Please watch over and guide me true,

From darkness keep, to the light I go through.

I miss you, dear friend, wherever you are,

I wish you eternal happiness, as bright as a laughing star,

Our friendship has always been amazing and one-of-a kind,

And always it will be cherished, both in heart and mind.

A Major Essential in a Relationship: TRUST

"No, I am not an expert in relationships. I've never even entered a serious relationship before. I'll reserve that for my future. But nevertheless, I've seen enough that if trust isn't established properly in a relationship, it could take a turn headed for disaster."

Trust is a must in any form of relationships, whether in family, friendship and love. There is trust in a family when there is understanding and responsibility. We trust our best friends because our secrets with them are kept safe. But trust becomes delicate when incorporated into a boy-girl relationship. It's definitely different.

Trust, in its basic form, means confidence, moral responsibility and faith. Two keywords here are moral responsibility and faith(confidence is closely related to this). Having faith is strongly believing, and that is important for a relationship to work. Trust becomes a moral responsibility when it is given to someone. It's wonderful when you can become a person to be trusted. It means that you value what they give you and that they in turn, know that they could count on you. Trust is delicate, and sometimes heavy. Therefore, it should never be taken for granted. It's one of the hardest things to get back once you have lost them. It takes so much more to earn it back than to lose it in the blink of an eye. At extreme cases, it may prove impossible to do so. We have to be careful.

It's sad a lot of relationships fall apart because of gossips(what I'm trying to say by this is that when one side listens to gossips more rather than hearing the truth from its source, your partner), third parties and jealousy. And no doubt you'd sometimes ask yourself: was there real trust between both sides?

Gossips can be very damaging. Either you believe them or you don't. At some point in a relationship, gossips arise that may test the faith of one side. Instead of immediately jumping to conclusions, its best to get to the bottom of the matter. And there is no one better to answer that than its very source and subject, your partner. Having a heart-to-heart talk in times like these proves the existence of trust in relationship. You trust your partner to tell you the truth of the gossips. If it turns out that the gossips are untrue, then your partner will be relieved to know that you trusted in him/her enough to ask the truth from her instead of immediately believing gossips and create a misunderstanding. It seems impractical too to listen to gossips rather than hearing the truth from your partner whom you have known so well for a long time. If the gossips are true, well, that is another situation. This is where understanding should come in. Both sides should talk it out and listen to what each other has to say before judging. They should try to understand what went wrong and then come up with the best possible solution. A fight may be unavoidable, and that is natural. In the end, we have to make decisions as to whether we continue the relationship or end it. If another chance is given, accept it wholeheartedly and strive to do better in the future. If not, then it simply had to end.

What I'm really trying to point out here is that in situations like these, they should really talk, I mean, really talk. Communication is the key. Constant communication is even better. I doubt relationships stand a chance without this.

When there is communication, its letting the other side know what you do and how you feel, effectively bringing the relationship closer. A relationship at the beginning takes a lot of adjustments. And most of it involves getting to know the person better and getting used to him/her. We must know what both sides want, and work out solutions to settle that together. Talking often is igniting that special spark all over again, and trust becomes stronger each time we do. We can also overcome little quibbles if both sides are open to each other. If anything's wrong, then speak it out instead of putting unnecessary strain on yourself and the relationship. It's best that you do. Sometimes silence, thought it may not seemingly hurt anyone, can create problems. Since the other side doesn't have a clue of what's going on, there appears a gap between the relationship. If the other side suddenly becomes silent and is starting to withdraw from you, wouldn't you want to know what's happening? If silence continues, then you will simply drift apart. I've seen this happen. And most often, it is the girls who is left so confused and hurt. It's like the heart wants to ask that silent person, "Did you not trust me enough to tell me what's wrong?". It seems so wrong for a relationship to end like that. There is no other way to deal with it then to talk openly. And make sure that after the communication, there will be little room for ill feelings. Accept whatever comes. The truth may hurt for quite a while, but its not impossible to get over it with the right help.

That's why its important to communicate often. It's an essential key for trust to keep the relationship intact. It hardly leaves any holes for misunderstanding.

As perfection decrees, no one is perfect. Committing mistakes is unavoidable, and it takes patience and acceptance from both sides. This is also where you will see if your partner is able to accept you for who you are and what you are not. If he/she truly loves you, he/she knows how to overlook your mistakes and see the beautiful side of you. That is looking with your heart and not your eyes alone. If there was ever trust in the beginning, then this will eventually hold true.

Trust in relationships should have a strong ground. Keeping these things in mind might help strengthen whatever relationships there may be, despite obstacles that come to test its connection. It's important to keep the relationship alive, more so to keep that special spark going. You got together for a reason and there is love to keep both of you there, and there should definitely be trust to keep it strong.

It all starts here, when you say it and when you accept it from someone;

"I trust you."

~I'm not speaking from experience here. This is merely my opinion based on what I observe around me. I learn from these situations and I develop an idea of what should and should not be done. It's helpful to observe of what's going around you. It might even guide you.~

Top 10 Realizations of 2009

It's the new year! I take a step back for a moment and ponder on the things that I realized and come to accept in the year 2009. So much has happened, but here's my Top 10 list:

10.) I choose how my life goes, I allow things to happen but some may be out of control. But to the extent of those I can influence, I choose to live my life with responsibility, good sense and moral and with meaning.

9.) I've written more poems this year than any other year.

8.) A lot of things that I wistfully wished for came true. I didn't really ask for them, but it's a wish uttered at passing times. Nevertheless, they came true.

7.) I used to worry about being on the skinny side. But not so much now, since a close friend pointed out to me, "You can eat as much as you want. " :D

6.) Find time to vent your feelings. The feeling doesn't leave you till you do.

5.) I'm convinced that choosing ComSci as my course is one of the best choices I made. I realize that I prefer it so much over other possible course choices. Hopefully I'll see this through the end.

4.) If you're not sure that you love that person, then you probably didn't love him at all.

3.) I could write more than a thousand reasons why I'm very much thankful to the Good Lord of all that I have today. They're priceless.

2.) There's just no escaping some things, no matter how hard you've tried preparing yourself to avoid them.

1.) 2009 is a year I'll never, ever, ever forget. I felt that the year 2009 has given me a mountain of amazing surprises that came tumbling down on me. It's been a truly beautiful year for me.

-the treasures of the past should be kept safe and cherished, they will become priceless for the future. -